Hihi all decided to post cause i wanted to take a break watching my anime. And well, it's been in my head recently. Especially after watching Wonderful Life. haha
Now now, we all call this weird thing that makes your heart melt, or maybe for some it might mean it hurts a lot at the sound of it. It's called love. Ooh. love you say. Alright, now, so is love a good thing, a bad thing, or depends? I believe love was created for good. I mean, God is love, and well, God's good. So love's good right? Definitely. But why do some people say things like "Love sucks?" well, cause in this fallen world, no one's perfect, so human love is of course, imperfect too. And because of that, people get hurt, either cause of the lack of love, or wrong expressions of love, or whatever, the list goes on. So this whole thing about love, has to be good.
Well, what kinda love is there. Basically there's only one. But it can be to different people, in different forms, but ultimately, it boils down to just loving the person. So is it a feeling then? Well, i've gotta say no. Cause if it's a feeling, then won't loving someone depend on our feeling? That's pretty scary, cause what if God feels angry? Won't He likes blast me with a lightning bolt? Brr, i woulnd't want that. I believe feelings can make you love a person easier, but it's not dependant on it. Yup. Ok so enough with definitions and stuff.
Alright, today, i'm gonna talk about love to well, ya noe.. those kind. =P Haha, relational love! Woo! So interesting. Least i find it super intriguing, and puzzling at the same time. But here i go! So well, i watched Wonderful Life. For all those that have not, here's a little overview. Cause i'm going to use the characters for some illustration. Alright, basically, there's this guy Seung Wan (the guy in the photo), and Se Jin (the girl in the photo), that kinda had a one night stand, and gave birth to their baby, Shin Bi (the little girl in the photo). So they were forced to get married. But Seung Wan initially didn't like Se Jin, cause he liked someone else, Chae Young. And there's this guy that was with Chae Young at first. But they broke up, and he kinda grew feelings for Se Jin after some time. That guy's Do Hyun. However, unlike Chae Young who wanted to break Se jin and Seung Wan up, Do Hyun was always there for Se Jin, and didn't want her to be sad. Ok, then Seung Wan actually grew to like Se Jin as the show progressed, however, there was a defining moment. He said "I'll try to love you as much as Shin Bi.. Care for you.." Gosh was it touching. But anyway, yar. Can you see why it was a defining moment? Well i'll come to that in a moment. Then there's Seung Wan's dad. In the show, you'll always see him scolding Seung Wan, cause Seung Wan's really immature. Alright, now we'll see what we can learn from different characters.
Seung Wan : Remember the defining moment i was talking about? "I'll try to love you as much as Shin Bi.. Care for you.." Alright. From this, it can be seen that, love is actually a choice. We have to choose to love. In a relationship, it doesn't mean you'll always like the person. Nor will there always be sweet or nice times. However, if you want to keep the relationship (whatever kinds), you've got to choose to love today. Don't like feelings overtake you. Feelings are not bad. But you can't just rely on them. If you do, that's when relationships fall apart.
Se Jin : Se Jin, in the whole show, showed that she loved Shin Bi A LOT. Like SUPER A LOT. And she loved Seung Wan too. Now, she showed her love through her actions. Faith without actions is dead. I believe when you love someone, it's gotta be shown too. Might not be actions actions, but words too. Se Jin actually quit her dream of becoming a diplomat, so she could pay for bills and Seung Wan for his studies. That's called sacrifice. Which i'll talk more when i talk about Do Hyun.
Do Hyun : Alright, this guy's the gentleman, and nice and rich and blah. You get the drift. But what's to be learnt from this guy, is that even though he likes Se Jin, he didn't break Seung Wan and Se Jin up. He was always there for her, but never having the intention to break them up. As long as there's a smile on Se Jin's face, he'd be happy. Sacrificial love. When you talk about love, you've got to know, that it should be about the other person. Not about us. Love is outward looking. not inward looking. Always seek to bless others. That's the gist of loving. Then you must be thinking "But isn't that wrong, keep loving, and i dun get any? like the heck?!" well, it's not wrong wanting to be love. But remember what i said, love is a choice, you can't force the other person to love you right? You shouldn't and can't anyway. But if you love the person, more often than not, that person will love you back. But in the event that that doesn't happen, you've got to run back to the only one that can provide unfailing love. That's God.
Well, to all the boys and girls out there who wants to go into a relationship. I remember when i was your age. So did i! Haha, and i still want to anyway. =P But how ready are you? You might think "Hey, i'm ready k". Well, that was what i thought when i was your age too. And maybe, there might be some that really are ready. But let me ask you this. How's your relationship with God? I think if you really want to get into a relationship, that's the basic question you need to ask. If you're like not even close to God, don't think about it. Know why? Cause your life will be in a mess! In the relationship, God's got to be the center of it all. Not the love you have for her, or feelings, or whatever, God has to be. And if He's not in yours, how can He be in the relationship. Nownow, you might think all these are bull, or "hey but that uncle of mine got married and is still together now with his wife what!". How many of such cases are there? And you're gonna assume it to be your case too? Think probability. Not likely to happen. But you say "But i'm different ok, i'll make it happen". Well, i had those thoughts before too. But that thought itself is flawed. "i'll make it happen". Now where's God in the whole thing? Remember, God has to be there. A relationship can still happen, but if God's not there, it won't be blessed. Get what i mean?
Now, another thing is that, when i was young, people kept saying "your ideals will change, your thinking will change". And i said "No it won't. i'll make sure it doesnt". And i meant it with all my heart k! But hey, it still changed. THings i thought were important, doesn't look that important to me anymore. So, that's why it's better if you're more settled, then find the person you like. If not, it'll just end in a break up again. So ask yourself this. what do you want in life, or in the relationship? If it's "to love the person, to get married..." only, which are good thoughts. But if God's not the number one, you might wanna reconsider.
Alright, hope i'm not losing people as you continue reading this. Some of you might be in a relationship now. Maybe some word of advice i guess. Especially for guys that get jealous really easily. Ever wondered why you get jealous easily? Hmm, are you firm in your identity in God today? Do you believe He really holds your tomorrow? Do you have trust in your partner? In love, there must be trust. If there isn't, i can't see how it can continue. So this day, choose to know who you are in God. Your identity comes from who God thinks you are. Not who your partner thinks you are, even though that is something nice and good. =)
I think a good gauge, to know if you're ready, is when you come to realise "hey, God's the only one that can satisfy me". And that you know even if you don't have someone, it's okay cause God loves you. I'm not saying that you won't have feelings of wanting a partner, or being attracted to people you find attractive. The feelings will still be there~ Cause i know mine are.
So well, i hope this short little post made sense. Take care!!
The heavenly voice was heard at
11:57 PM
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